“That is my greatest fear. If I lost control or did not have control, things would just, you know, I would be…fatal.”

When I first heard that line when Ctrl came out, I damn near cried. That one sentence basically summed up everything I had ever felt in my entire life. SZA’s mom (fun fact: she’s a speech-language pathologist!) had me relating to Ctrl before the music had even started and I loved that. Now that we’re only two months away from the anniversary of its release, I figured that I’d write something centered around it and how it’s helped me gain control over my life.

I’m not afraid to admit that I’m a perfectionist and a control freak but having to sit back and realize that I cannot have control over every aspect in my life gives me heart palpitations.  Of course, this isn’t a good thing so I’ve been working on finding self-care methods that work best for me in my times of stress.

  1. Take Care of Your Hygiene

It isn’t always easy pulling yourself out of bed when you’re stressed or depressed but honestly, sometimes you just need that push. Brushing my teeth, doing my skincare routine, and taking a shower just make me feel prepared for whatever the world has to throw at me. The feeling of everything that stresses me out just washing away usually calms me. Plus, it’s always nice to be clean! When you’re done, find an outfit that makes you feel as flawless as you are!

  1. Clean

Honestly, cleaning calms me down whenever I’m sad, angry, or any other negative emotion. When I was younger, I never believed that a messy room equals a messy mind but now I get it. Every time I clean my room, my mind feels much less cluttered. Take some time to clean your room, do your laundry, organize your desk, and fill out your planner for the current month. Get your mind right.

  1. Dance

Whether you’re just dancing in the mirror or going out with your homies, dancing is a really great way to relax and just enjoy yourself and what life has to offer. I would suggest making a “bad bitch” playlist with all of the songs that literally make you feel like a bad bitch. Click here to listen to mine!

“We take things, and my influence so far, and then it’s out of my hands. And y’know while as I said it can be scary, it can also be a little bit comforting. Because I’ve learned that when I get to that point, and I can acknowledge, “Okay, Audrey, that’s as much as you can do,” I can actually let it go…”

  1. Literally, Take Control

I usually have a lot on my plate when I’m stressed and being stressed only stresses me out more. Sometimes the best thing is to just take on your stress head first. For me, it starts with a to-do list and forcing myself to get up and complete each of the tasks in front of me. You’ll be a little bored or irritated at first (especially if it’s not your favorite thing to do) but by the time you’re finished, you’ll be glad that you forced yourself to get up and get it together. Just like working out, which is another great and healthy self-care strategy!

  1. Talk to Your Family & Friends

I’m a very communicative person so I like to talk through my problems. It’s always better to vent than to bottle up your emotions for sure so find a confidant that is willing to listen in your times of need. I usually talk to my mom or my best friends and they don’t sugar coat anything when I need advice. I love that my support system is always upfront and honest with me because it helps me grow as a person.

  1. Mental Health Day

Now, this should be your last result but if you need a mental health day, then do it. These are much needed every once in a while so take advantage of them. Whether you’re taking the day to sleep or complete some tasks, really enjoy yourself and enjoy your day.

These are a few of my favorite and effective ways to get out of my funks and I hope that you take the time to try them and I hope that they help you. Comment your favorite self-care methods below!

“And if it’s an illusion, I don’t wanna wake up. I’m gonna hang on to it. Because the alternative is an abyss, is just a hole, a darkness, a nothingness. Who wants that? You know? So that’s what I think about control, and that’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it.”


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