I’ve been an avid reader pretty much my entire life. I genuinely enjoyed reading and always found myself reading in my free time. As I’ve gotten older my love for reading hasn’t changed but what I’m reading has. Before I was always reading teen fiction but now that I’m older I’ve had a hard time finding novels that interest me on an adult level. So far, I’ve found success in finding books I enjoy by joining Noname’s Book Club. Outside of her monthly recommendations I’ve gotten into reading both memoirs and self-help books, two genres I never saw myself being interested in. However, as I venture more and more into my twenties, I’ve come to appreciate them more and see their purpose in my life a lot more clearly. Below you will find a list of books that will help you get your shit together, whether it’s a memoir to inspire you the everyone’s journey is different and that all your hard work will pay off or a self-help book that will quite literally help you get your shit together.
1. Year of Yes
First up is Shonda Rhimes’ Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun, and Be Your Own Person! This memoir recounts the story of how the Grey’s Anatomy creator decided to spend a year of her life saying yes to things that would normally terrify her into saying no. For example, in 2014 she gave the commencement speech at her Alma mater, Dartmouth College,which is something she would have previously said no to in a heartbeat. A self-proclaimed introvert, she had hired a publicist to get out of doing public appearances and media interviews. I really appreciated reading this book because it encouraged me to get out of my comfort zone and try new things.Branching out has been a really important thing for me,especially since I came to school so far from home.When I first came to Howard, I hated going anywhere by myself but after freshman year I decided that I couldn’t do that anymore. I needed to learn how to be more independent because at the end of the day, the only person that I know for a fact has my back is me. So I started by eating alone and going to events by myself. Now I am able to attend concerts alone and truly enjoy the experience without feeling slightly incomplete. I can definitely say that learning to be alone while not feeling alone is one of the best lessons I’ve learned in college. I definitely recommend Year of Yes if you’re looking to get out of your comfort zone and wanting read about how someone else did just that. There is also a Year of Yes companion journal available if you’re interested!
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There’s a common perception in our culture that you’re not really a proper adult until you have a home, car, children, and are happily married. This is bullshit. Even if you don’t have your finances (or anything else) together, once you turn 18 you *are* an adult, even if it doesn’t feel like it. It’s important to remember that even if your life doesn’t measure up to a certain ideal of what our society says an adult is supposed to look like, your life is just as valid. Believing otherwise will only hold you back.✨Link in bio for “how to become an adult”
2. The Financial Diet
Next up is a book that is categorized as self-help because it’s designed help twentysomethings get their financial shit together. Based on a blog that was to help the author, Chelsea Fagan, get her own financial shit together, The Financial Diet: A Total’s Beginner’s Guide to Getting Good with Money turned into a full blown community of young adults determined to become financially independent and financially stable. The book has a few sections that are written to help young adults transition into adulthood with ease. The sections include budgeting, investing, career, food, home, love and action. This book, which has been given the honor of being one of the most inspiring books for recent graduate, covers what it means to invest, how to talk to your friends about money, how to take care of your house like a grownup, and much more.. I definitely recommend this book for those of you who are inches away from adulthood really beginning and are confused about what it really takes to be grown grown.
To say that Michelle Obama’s memoir took the world by storm would be an understatement. It seemed like everywhere I turned, someone was reading i t and raving about it. I received this book as a Christmas present back in 2018 and it was honestly a great reminder that everyone’s journey is different but that doesn’t mean that everyone doesn’t deal with the ups and downs of life, even the First Lady of the United States. From her childhood experience to her college career too her life with Barack, Michelle’s journey is inspiring and reminds readers that hard work pays off and it’s okay to start over if you’re unhappy. I really enjoyed this memoir and encourage everyone, especially back women, to read it.
4. Broke Millennial
This financial self-help book is specifically geared towards millennials (hence the title) and designed to help you stop scraping by and get your financial life together.Written by Erin Lowry, Broke Millennial hopes to help you figure out your relationship to money and better that relationship, especially before it can affect your relationship with the people in your life. I recommend this book for anyone that desires to become a financial badass.
5. The Defining Decade
This is my favorite book that I read in 2019 and I honestly recommend it to everyone that is in their twenties,about to be in their twenties, or just got out of their twenties. According to Dr. Meg Jay, your twenties are the most important decade and I agree with her. In this book, she recounts the stories of some of her most memorable clients and how their worked through their twenties to build capital in their lives and transition into adulthood with her help. The Defining Decade has three sections that chronicle the biggest worries in a twentysomething’s life: work, love,and the brain & the body. Throughout the work section, Dr. Jay talks about the. importance of networking and only doing things that can benefit the future of your career. In the love section, Dr. Jay talks about the dating down and the fear of commitment, while in the the brain & body section, Dr. Jay mentions the connection between the brain ad the body and how important it is to pay attention to that. All I have left to say is: read this book.
6. More than Enough
To be honest, I’m still in the process of this book but from what I have read of it, I love it. It is incredibly inspiring. If you don’t know Elaine Welteroth is the former editor-in-chief of Teen Vogue (AKA one of my dream jobs) and in this novel she retells ow she made her way to that position after years of blood, sweat, and tears. She makes a points to remind readers than no matter how long it takes to accomplish their dreams, they are more than enough and they have more than enough to reach their goals. It’s been described as the millennial’s version of Becoming and I agree.Both novels are written by inspiring black women that we all look up to and hit humanizes both of their journeys and reminds that we, too, can accomplish great things and that good things take time. I encourage each of my queens to read More Than Enough as soon as you possibly can.
I hope that you take some time to check out these books and read the ones that speak to you! Let me know in the comments if there are any books you loved that also helped you get your shit together.